I recently was getting to know this guy, you know the beginning phase of dating/courting where you’re still trying to figure out if you even really like the person. Anyway, he seemed like a cool down to earth dude. We would intermittently text, talk on the phone, went on a few dates. Well after about date number five I realized I wasn’t feeling him. I didn’t know exactly why I was no longer interested, but something just wasn’t clicking. “He’s too serious” “He’s too loud” “He’s too indecisive”. A Sista just could not put her finger on what it was, and it was bothering me because he was a good catch. Then randomly, amidst cleaning my kitchen, it dawned on me. Aha! He’s too woke.
Now don’t get it twisted. I consider myself woke and love a man that is conscious of social injustice happening within communities especially communities of color. I’m all for discussing the unyielding justice systems oppression of black men and women. However, I have learned too much wokeness is EXHAUSTING and to be frank, depressing. My point is, I’m not trying to be woke ALL the time. I like to consider myself an 80:20 type of gal. Meaning I’m about 80% woke and 20 % unwoke and when a sista is unwoke she is snoozzzzing.
Like, hit that alarm five times type of unwoke
crust in my eyes type of unwoke
panties and no bra type of unwoke
REM sleep type of unwoke
When I’m unwoke I’m trying to listen to some trap music, watch my ratchet shows and throw that ass in a circle on the dance floor one time.
You catch my drift lol.
Being unwoke is a way for me to escape reality because lord knows once I leave my apartment and “step into the world” I will constantly be reminded of my blackness. Hearing about deaths of innocent black men, women and children, dealing with daily racial microaggressions, reading about the corrupt criminal justice system, etc. after awhile these things take a toll on your spirit. I like to distance myself from all the chaos in the world and recharge and when I\’m recharging sometimes I\’m UNWOKE. So yeah I had to let him go.
Stay blessed. Remember, you are loved ❤️